Ah yes, it's been a while. Missed you all! And at least one of you missed me, since she had to call and get an update on my life rather than read this blog. ;-) It's all a plot on my end to get phone calls. Ha.
But her comment was, well life must be going well since you haven't written on your blog. Hmm.. That's mostly true. Thing is, I get things in my head I want to talk about/write about, but I can't do it at work anymore. Gone are the days when I wasted a lot of time at work to vomit out my feelings. And evenings have been busy - I've chosen other things to focus on for the moment.
Work is going really well. I had a trip for work, and that went great. It was nice to be seen out of my normal context, which at the moment is still at a lower level than I would like. My boss is great. My coworkers are great. And life is overall great. The one bad thing at the moment is my mom is starting to get aggressive. It's so sad to have that happen when she's been so calm and nice her whole life. I don't have to experience it in person and I truly thank god for that. We'll try to figure something out that's not medication, at least in the beginning.
I did see an old friend on my trip, who I haven't seen in 10 years. So nice to just jump right in. She's one of those women too who just have men pop up when one is out the door. It's nuts. I'm struggling to keep my distance and still get to know some guys.
I just had one guy say to me yesterday how he would like to know if there's even a chance for something in the future. There was of course a longer story, and he wasn't pushing (at least intentionally). I appreciated him being
willing (and able!) to say what was on his mind. I was upset initially because I thought he wasn't going to to want to speak with me ever
again. I was very flustered, and babbled, but eventually stopped speaking. I was glad I stopped speaking, as I may have started
promising something I don't want to deliver on. I truly don't want a
relationship right now, but then again, I want to get to know great
people. Seems like I can't have it both, but we'll see. As I was talking
with my roommate, I realized all I can do is be honest about where I
am, and if he, for instance, chooses to do something or nothing because
of that, well, that's his choice. And I have to be true to myself and
not promise something just to keep people in my life.
It pisses me off sometimes that getting to know guys always comes with the relationship tag, but that's the way of the world.
It's funny that he and other people see me as being so positive and outgoing. Maybe I'm beginning to become a new me? I have to be sure I don't continue to argue with them and say that's not me. "Argue for your limitations and sure enough, they are yours."
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"Argue for your limitations and sure enough, they are yours."
What an excellent thing to remind myself of. Thanks for that one. I can get into that mode.
Try another one--'what you look for, you find'. Cuz, from reading here, sounds like you're expecting the world to see/others in it to view spending time with others (period) as a 'relationship'. (whatever that means...LOL) I held a similar belief--and stopped looking for others to validate that perception. Son of a gun, I discovered lots of folks didn't 'see' it that way....equal amounts actually. I've pretty well given up the opinion poll--it was driving me nutz.
Mostly, this update was all sorts of things to celebrate for you. I will say, I was saddened to hear that the mom's situation is continuing to turn and evolve. Tough to deal in, I'm sure. I'll hope that there are interventions that will compliment what's innately HER. *sigh* Oh, that has to be so difficult.....
That's great to hear that your job is going well and that you like your manager and coworkers!
I'm sorry about your mom, I hope there's a non-medical option to put everyone at ease.
I guess there are times when people are looking at dating as the means to an end (a relationship), while others are looking it was an end in itself (getting to know new people). It is nice when those goals match up between two people!
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