Thursday, March 27, 2008


OK, because of one of Churlita's comments I realize I haven't written anything recently about the status of my life. But given what a wonderful soapoperaific life I have (how's that for a word Tera?), I gotta keep the updates coming.

- I have been out of my house for several weeks, except when my husband's been away.
- My kitties obviously miss me.
- Hubby and I started walking through the house figuring out who gets what and what needs to be mediated/negotiated. [that was Saturday, and Sat. night I had a meltdown while out with my friends]
- Hubby's trying to figure out if he can afford to keep the house. I cannot.
- Hubby indicated he's going to be cautious, so I'm being cautious too. Hubby will hopefully be told that he should be happy how reasonable I'm being.
- I have been advised that I should not sign a lease for a new place until some things are legally set.
- I have been advised that I should even spend some time at the house when he is there (like sleep overnight).
- I miss being in my house, but would like life to move on. Hubby's not good with moving on, so we'll see how it goes.


Susan said...

I'm just hoping everything turns out ok. Listen to "Moving On" by Rascal Flatts. It always helps me feel better...or cry.

WNG said...

Advised by a lawyer or 'advised' by people who like to think they know what they're talking about? Mama G got some crap advice from friends during The Great Split of Lies and Discontent (as it is known) and I just want you to be careful about taking advice.
It must be hard (and ten million other things). Don't know what to say except: huggles to you!!!

NoRegrets said...

Thanks Susan. Me too. Not sure I'll listen to the song today... but I will.

WNG - so glad you didn't give me huggies. I'm not ready to wear diapers in my old age.
And, I've been listening to both friends and a lawyer - meeting with the lawyer on Monday for the full briefing.

EsLocura said...

I think the lawyer thing is the way to go, it isn't easy to be cool. calm and collected with such an emotional issue. Keep reminding yourself that in the end, you and your happiness win, and that's a groovy thing. besos to go along with the huggies or huggles.

Gyuss Baaltar said...

What a crazy thing to go through. You know we support you.

evil-e said...

I don't have much to say on this issue. I have helped ex-girlfriends move out of my place, but never gotten a divorce....

NoRegrets said...

gracias alles. even those who have not been through it.

heather said...

listen to your lawyer for the legal stuff and your friends for the emotional stuff but take ~everything~ with a grain (or ten) of salt.

and no matter what. remain true to yourself. a divorce is hard enough but if you allow yourself to fall into either the bitterness trap or the doormat trap you will never forgive yourself.

and this time i'm with g.
divorce is crazy.
and you have our support.

NoRegrets said...

Heather, good thing I'm on blood pressure medication! :-)

yes, the whole remaining true to myself. sucks. difficult. trying.

Churlita said...

I have been there...With kids thrown in the mix and it isn't easy. It takes a while before you can finally see that you're better off than you were in that situation.

There will be more meltdowns with your friends, and if they're good friends, they'll understand.

I'm not sure why you would be advised to spend the night in your house with your husband. If you're trying to move on, that can't really help, can it? Or maybe it's a legal thing.

Good luck and we are here for you. Feel free to vent/ melt down whenever you need to on here.

NoRegrets said...

It's a legal thing. Otherwise I might give up my stake in the house.

Tera said...

NoR, obviously you have know me for quite a while and know I LOVE semantics...the word is FANTABULOUS!

I'm still hoping that things work out for you... ((hugs))

Just A Girl said...

Keep your chin up.