From a friend of my husband who I wrote to today:
I really appreciate you letting me know - it says a lot about how much you
do care about him, even if it's not in the way that keeps people together.
I just feel terrible for you both. There's no bad guys in divorce - no one
should hate you, so please don't even think that. No one is in your shoes
but you. Things either work out or they don't. You both deserve to lead happy lives.
Best of luck.