Monday, June 2, 2008

I just don't get it

There's been some conversations going on in other people's comments, about faking it [it=the big o gas m (I don't want to attract even more perverts - yes YOU --- or at least major excitement)]. Yes, it's been all women. And I made the statement that I have never ever faked it and never will, because if the guy can't do it (with my assistance even), then why should I stroke the ego? Some people call that brave. Some people say 'you're my hero'. But why? Isn't it better for the person to learn? And if you don't give a shit about they guy and having him learn, well, isn't that even more of a reason not to fake it? Would you want someone to fake it? And, um, can men fake it? So many questions, so little time.

17 comments:

Michael said...

Fake what? Sincerity?

(Pause.)

I have never understood faking it. You don't get all the way home after a long journey, pull into your driveway, then say "Naaaaahh..," and go back on the road.

It's disrespectful to both partners. If you can't be honest about this, can you be honest about anything?

Gyuss Baaltar said...

I've faked it

evil-e said...

I have faked it before as well...condoms make it easy to do that....

I can usually tell if a girl fakes...so be it. I will not reveal my "tells".

NoRegrets said...

Michael, I agree, and thanks for visiting.

Evile - could she tell you were faking it?

and Gyuss, well, I learn something new every day.

Churlita said...

Like I said before, if it's just one of those nights when I'm too drunk or too tired to have enough focus, then I've faked it just so it would be over sooner.

It wasn't like the other person needed a lesson on how to please me, it was more like I wasn't in the right place to get there. Does that make sense?

Celebrate Woo-Woo said...

I'm not a faker, either. I, too, don't really see the point. I've had plenty of really enjoyable, anti-climatic experiences. In fairness, though, it isn't hard for me if I'm truly in the mood. If I was a man, I'd been a horrible lover because I'm quick, but I'm not a man, so the first one doesn't mean I can't keep right on going;>

NoRegrets said...

Churlita, I understand, but I guess it's just two different approaches. I'd just say, uh, sorry, not happening, or, if you're waiting for me you can stop waiting - I'm fine.

Woo-damn I'd like to have your 'problem'.

WNG said...

Wow - maybe I'm just mean, or maybe I've just had some crappy sex but I've faked it and it really doesn't bother me. Because there are men out there that I don't feel like teaching and times when I'd really rather go to sleep. Granted these are not guys that I was with for an extended period of time, so...

ps - me too woo woo!

NoRegrets said...

Yeah, but isn't it more effort to fake it? To me it is. Not worth it.

OK, I will say here in the comments that once a guy was doing all he could and he finally exclaims, 'what the fuck is wrong with you?!'. Can anyone beat that story??

The CEO said...

Yeah, before I got married I had two situations. The first was in college. I was with a woman who couldn't have orgasms no matter what either of you did. Neither of us found it very satisfying, although I liked her a lot. The other one took an hour and a half to orgasm, and claimed that she too a long time. What should have been enjoyable had become work. Not a reason to stay.

NoRegrets said...

CEO-well,hmmmm. did you read my post a long time back about the implantable device that you can press a button and get an orgasm? ex #1 should look into that. and as for ex#2, well, at least she did. sorry it turned into work! the process can be fun/fulfilling too, but I guess not if you feel pressure to reach a goal.

Tera said...

You know sometimes, you just don't want to hurt their feelings. They just think they're doing da damn thang...but really they're not. You just want it over with and fast...and some guys reach their climax even quicker as a reaction to yours, so there you go, and you know what, that's something I have NO REGRETS about!!

Damn...you just want to KEEP on reminding me of Mr. Millimeter Peter don't you?!?!?! LMAO!

NoRegrets said...

TERA. Hey, to each his/her own. I just wanted to hear what people had to say.

NoRegrets said...

ps- I'm waving my pinkie at you.

M. Robert Turnage said...

The angel on one shoulder says, "Honesty and intimacy should go hand in hand. For an open, honest, caring, and loving relationship, you should respect each other to share your true feelings."

The devil on the other shoulder says, "Tell her those pants don't make her look fat and who cares if she fakes it?"

NoRegrets said...

Ha! I think the devil often wins out... :-)

WNG said...

To answer your question: It's really not hard at all NoR...no pun intended. Then you get to go to sleep or go home without having to talk about it and reassure him of anything. Sometimes I just know that it isn't going to happen - and if it isn't (and I'm not in a relationship where we already understand each other and it would be ok) I'm thinking fake it.